I will be insisting on this because this just happened to me. All the #metoo chat is worthless if in everyday life we dismiss or run away from people who has suffer abuse because you cannot cope with it. I have been shit up and silenced. That cannot happen . It is wonderful that finally silence is broken. But don't be mistaken, silence does not break because you are listening to the celebrities, not because you tell your own story. It breaks when you are able to listen to the ones close to you, your friends, your family, your colleagues. When you don't send them to sleep, don't shut them up, don't try to stop them for talking. Because, in all honesty, why do you do that? It is because you want to ease the pain of the victim? Or it is because you don't want to hear, you don't know what to do, how to react? Well, my dear, it's very simple: listen to. Let them go with their story, let them cry, and then you simply need to hug them, acknowledge that you have listened. They are not asking you for a cure. Speaking about what happened IS the cure.
«Jeg har en frykt for menn som jeg kjemper hver dag. En frykt jeg alltid kommer til å ha, som jeg tror jeg kommer til å lære meg å leve med». I dag deler Milla (@nattdrottning) sine #metoo historier og erfaringer med dere. You know where
I have been sexually harassed while wearing....
a hospital uniform (scrubs), a server uniform (tshirt and jeans, white button down and tie, black button down and long apron), a landscaper uniform (tank top, jeans and steel toes), a Mom uniform (cardigan and ballet flats), a tired Mom uniform (yoga pants and puffy vest), a house cleaner uniform (company tshirt and jeans), a shop hands uniform (coveralls and a bandana on my head), a Church uniform (ankle length floral print dress), a 90s chick uniform (baggy jeans, plaid shirt and greasy hair)....in a red dress, a short dress, a long dress. In my Dads old jean jacket. In the clothes of a 10 year old cuz I was 10 years old. No matter the outfit whats uniform about this harassment is the ever presence of my femaleness. My femininity whether disguised or enhanced has made me a target for jokes, for sexual acts shouted from car windows, for chiding, for approval, for disapproval, for shame, for judgement. I have been called slut, prude, too masculine, too feminine, too fat for that, too old for that. What I put on my body - a classic black dress like Audrey Hepburn would wear - has been called Asking For It - the 48 year old neighbor of my boyfriend when I was 19 whispered in my ear I was looking for trouble wearing a Come Fuck Me Dress like that....I didnt say those words. My dress didnt either. He said them. But it doesnt matter. If I get dressed - the way I want to or the way I should or the way Im told to. If I dont get dressed. If I stood naked before you I'd still be wearing my uniform of Female. Of Girl. Of Woman. I cant take it off. I dont want to. I just want to walk out my door and into the world and be a Person who looks like Me.
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